Yesterday a headline in one of the Finnish tabloids told us that a famous model (in Finnish scale, that is) was choosing to have both a career and children. This was shocking to the reporter writing the story.
That got me thinking.
If having both a rewarding career and a family is interesting enough to get on the front page of a national newspaper, something in our definition of career must be terribly outdated. If a career is still defined by only work and how much money you make it’s no surprise that people are unhappy, work overtime and spend virtually no time with their families.
My favorite band Switchfoot has a better definition:
This is your life, are you who you want to be
This is your life, is it everything you dreamed that it would be
When the world was younger and you had everything to lose
To me a career is a question about who you want to be, as a whole and not just during the 8 hours (or more) you spend at work every day.
It might be that you really want to be the guy or girl working crazy hours – because that’s just who you are. Well, I guess it’s fine with me then. After all, no one else can tell you what a good life is like for you. That’s something we all have to find out for ourselves. But for me that’s not who I am.
No conflict between work and family
The age-old conflict between work and family is about to be resolved.
If you look at your life as a whole and plan accordingly you’ll make your career such that it contains all the elements that are important to you. In my case that means that I need to be able to do something that allows me to be creative and make an impact on the world. That could be programming, writing or doing business. But I also need to dedicate a big part of my time to my wife and son. Otherwise I just won’t be happy.
So, following my own advice, that’s what I use as a starting point for creating my career plans.
Not what my boss thinks I should do.
Not what would make me the most money.
Not what would give me the quickest promotions.
After I started thinking about careers like this, I’m much more relaxed: I don’t have to be fighting for promotions or getting the most attention at work. My life is about so much more. This job is just one part in my career plans.
Do what you are best at
A fellow blogger Graham Lutz put it well in his comment to my question about what motivates him:
Being my best motivates me. I feel my best when I’ve been productive.
I think it’s a great advice for planning your career. Plan to be your best. Do the things that you feel great doing, that feel like you. At your best.
To me this blog is one of those things that most people would see as a hobby, but according to my new definition I say that it’s an important part of my career. I don’t want to be just a programmer, but also a writer. And this is the one place where I can be my best on that front.
I encourage you to find the areas in your life on which you can be your best and then work on the ones important to you. Think about the long term commitment but don’t start something just because you think that it’ll make your life better in two years. Do things that you enjoy doing today that will also give you long term benefits.
For example this blog is something I really enjoy writing, but I also have well laid plans on how it will further enhance my life in two years’ time.
If you are a programmer, find out which part in software development is the one you are interested in – and just do that. Don’t get fooled into thinking that being promoted to a management position is the only career move there is. Actually, being promoted will probably just take time away from the other aspects in your career (family, own projects). But if managing is the one thing you like most, then go for it. Just remember that this is your life and you are the one responsible in making it a great one.
A bad career move doesn’t mean turning down a seemingly great work offer. It means doing something that makes you feel unhappy.






